Before I Finally Hang Up !!!

“HOW WELL HAVE YOU LIVED YOUR LIFE CAN BE JUDGED BY THE NUMBER OF PEOPLE WHO ATTEND YOUR FUNERAL!!!” says My Dad - - - A statement so blunt…..so True and so very Eye – opening!!!
Well this one statement led to loads of thoughts, in depth analyses, retrospection, discussion and finally a List – A List of things I would want Myself to say when I lay down on the Flower Bed…..A List of all those things that I would wish to believe to be True BEFORE I FINALLY HANG UP !!!!!
A Bit pre-mature, or not my age, some would say for me to post such a philosophical post, but it gives an insight to what we all would want to do in the present so as to make our sunset – Bright !!!
Many moons from now, just before we take our final breath, I hope, for our sake, that we are able to repeat the following ten headlines to ourselves, honestly.

1.  I followed my heart and intuition.

Legendary Steve Jobs once said:
“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.  Don’t be trapped by dogma, which is living with the results of other people’s thinking.  Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice, heart and intuition.  They somehow already know what you truly want to become.  Everything else is secondary.”
This is our life, and it’s a short one.  Lets not accept false choices. Let not others put a cage around us.  Try what we want to try.  Go where we want to go.  Follow our own intuition.

2.  I said what I needed to say.

No, we should not start randomly cussing and acting like a fool.  But we must say what we need to say when we need to say it.  It may be our only chance to do so.
Let’s not Censor Ourselves. Lets Speak the truth.  Our truth !!!!!

3.  I did what I needed to do.

Every morning we are faced with two choices:  We can aimlessly stumble through the day not knowing what’s going to happen and simply react to events at a moment’s notice, or we can go through the day directing our own life and making our own decisions and destiny.
And no, it won’t be easy.  But in the end, suffering from the pain of discipline while we do what we need to do is a whole lot easier than suffering from the regret and disappointment of never fulfilling any of our dreams.

4.  I made a difference.

 Let’s act as if what we do… makes a difference.  It does!!!
Let’s do something that’s greater than us– something that helps someone else to be happy or to suffer less.
Doing something nice for someone can change the world.  Maybe not the whole world, but their world.

5.  I know what true love is.

Finding a companion or a friend isn’t about trying to transform yourself into the perfect image of what you think they want.  It’s about being exactly who you are and then finding someone who appreciates that.  Relationships must be chosen wisely.  It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company.  There’s no need to rush.  If something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason.
REMEMBER -   There are no coincidences.  Everything happens for a reason!!!!!

6.  I am happy and grateful.

Very little is needed to create happiness.  It is all within us, in our way of thinking.  How we view ourselves and our world are conscious choices and habits.  The lens we choose to view everything through determines how we feel about ourselves and everything that happens around us. We must choose to be happy.

7.  I am proud of myself.

Being proud isn’t bragging about how great one is.  It’s more like quietly knowing that we’re worth a lot. 

8.  I became the best version of me.

Trying to be someone else is a waste of the person one actually is.
We are competing to be the best we can be of ourselves over our previous version !

9.  I forgave those who hurt me.

We’ve all been hurt by another person at some point or another – we were treated badly, trust was broken, hearts were hurt.  Grudges are a waste of perfect happiness.  To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover the prisoner was you.

10.  I have no regrets.

This one is a culmination of the previous nine headlines…
Follow your heart.  Be true to yourself.  Do what you need to do fulfill your dreams.  Say what you need to say.  Be kind to others.  Offer a helping hand when you’re able.  Love those who deserve to be loved, and cherish the bond you share.  Appreciate all the things you do have.  Smile.  Celebrate your small victories.  Learn from your mistakes.  Forgive.  And let go of the things you can’t change.
When life gets stressful, we often forget the things we should remember, and remember the things we should forget.

Ek Din Bik Jayega Maati ke Mol….Jag mein Reh Jayenge Pyaare tere Bol….
Ek Duje ke Hothon pe Lekar apne Geet….Koi Nishani chod..Fir Duniya se Bol !!!!!!

Thank you Dad !!!